[转帖]Eight Things You Should Never Say on a Date
<p><font face="Times New Roman" size="2">The date <i>seemed</i> to go well, but after you bid your companion farewell, you never heard from them again. Was it something you said? Well, yes. <br/><br/>First date nerves are responsible for many a <i>faux pas</i>; the presence of an attractive member of the opposite sex has the unnerving ability to turn unsuspecting daters into babbling fools with, at best, no sense of decorum and at worst, a raging case of verbal diaorrhea. <br/><br/>But the rules of date conversation are fairly straightforward: avoid the controversial, keep things light and be positive. You too can sidestep a conversation catastrophe by keeping these eight unmentionables in mind. <br/><br/><b>"My Ex..."</b><br/>If you feel these words forming in your mouth, for God's sake shove some food or something in there. If there are two more inappropriate words to utter on a date they are 'My Ex'. There's no faster way to paint yourself as bitter and self-obsessed (or just plain obsessed) than to bring up an ex while you're <i>supposed</i> to be getting to know someone new. <br/><br/><b>"I Hate My Job!" </b><br/>A first date is not the place to unload all your pent-up stress and frustrations about your stagnant career, idiotic colleagues, incompetent boss and petty office politics. You might <i>feel</i> better getting things off your chest, and sure, your date might <i>seem</i> like a sympathetic listener, but secretly they'll be cursing the moment they agreed to meet such a whiner — and counting the seconds until they can get the hell out of there. <br/><br/><b>"This Place Is a Dive"</b><br/>Sure you might <i>think</i> the place is a run-down greasy spoon, but saying as much will just make you sound like an unappreciative snob. You never know, this dingy little dive could be the family business, so don't blow it by coming across all elitist. There's nothing more offensive — especially if your date has paid the bill. If you <i>are</i> interested in seeing him or her again, just make a note to be the one who organises the date venue next time. <br/><br/><b>"When Will I See You Again?" </b><br/>Dropping this doozy into conversation basically guarantees you <i>won't</i> be hearing from your date again. Why? Because you've gone and ruined a perfectly good date by coming across all desperate and needy, that's why. If you had a good time, tell your date. If they did too, then you're all set for round two. A follow-up date is something that should happen naturally, not something you need to request. <br/><br/><b>"Where Is This Going?" </b><br/>This date is going straight to hell by the time these words are uttered. First (and second and even third) dates are all about getting to know someone so you can decide if there is a spark that's worth cultivating. A first meeting is not the time to be laying your cards on the table and stating what your relationship wants and needs are. When the chemistry is right and you're on to something special, you won't need to ask your date "Where is this going?" You will already be there... <br/><br/><b>"I Love You!" </b><br/>Don't laugh. It happens. And it happened to me. On a blind date of all things. Sure you had a great night. Sure your date is your idea of perfection. And yes, that gushy, warm feeling that's creeping over you is delicious. But it is NOT love. It is your hormones, darling. Don't tell me you love me on the first date no matter how damn fabulous I am... <br/><br/><b>"It's Just a Rash..."</b><br/>If you have an unsightly rash on any visible part of your body — an outbreak of some unfortunate skin disorder, for example — it may be worth rescheduling the date until you've, er, healed. No one wants to hear about your eczema or whatever, especially while they're eating. And there's not a hope in hell you're going to get a good night kiss if it looks like your lips are about to fall off. <br/><br/><b>"My Therapist Says..."</b><br/>'Over-sharing' is a term used to describe the act of revealing too-intimate details too soon. It's an early date no-no. For some reason, deeply personal and traumatic revelations from someone, who is essentially a complete stranger, send people running for the hills. Go figure. There's no shame in seeking qualified counselling to get you through life's ups and downs — just don't tell me about it over our very first cappuccino. <br/></font></p>
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